“When a father gives to his son, both laugh; when a son gives to his father, both cry.” - William Shakespeare.
Our early relationships with our parents lay the foundation for all our future relationships, including the one with ourselves. It also determines how we perceive God/the world/Life.. usually being a direct reflection of the relationships we had with our fathers while growing up.
This month I will be addressing the Father wound, and next month the Mother wound.
The absence of an actively committed father.
Fathers could be emotionally and/or physically absent during the childhood years because of numerous reasons.. stress and worries, illness, divorce, passed away, lack of time due to work, etc.
When fathers are absent, physically or emotionally, the wound that results is profound and could affect the personality negatively, such as having low self-esteem, lack of ability to socialize, inability to attract or maintain healthy, committed relationships and so on.
Not having received consistent reassurance from the father, one could feel inadequate and insecure, making it more difficult to overcome obstacles in life.
Fears, anxieties, addictions and depression are often being linked to the absence of a reassuring, loving father figure in childhood.
Children need an approving, loving and dependable paternal figure in their life, someone to teach them and guide them and make them feel safe in the world.We need to be hugged by our fathers regularly; to hear the words “I love you” often; to know we matter and are worth being loved, no matter what.. and to know we have unique gifts and capabilities. This gives us our sense of identity, and a belief in ourselves and our abilities.
Problem is, we are often unaware of childhood wounds, as they are usually buried deep within our subconscious minds - as children we don’t see anything “wrong” with our parents while growing up, thinking our fathers are just perfect. If anything, we belief any fault/s must be lying with us!
We know that our fathers are/were only human beings, and did their best in bringing us up.
Therefore, when we acknowledge that we have father wounds, we usually feel guilty and disloyal, as if we are “naming & shaming” or blaming our fathers (especially if they are not alive anymore).
But identifying and working on our father wounds is actually an act of love, as we are taking responsibility for our wounds, in order to become more loving and present ourselves.
In order to address these wounds and lift them from our systems we need to first see and face them. Only then are they available for healing, which will enable more connection with ourselves and life, and of course with our fathers!
During a session on the Father wound I can address
- the above issues, and specifically the Absence of an actively committed father in the sense of being consistently loving, reassuring and uplifting.
I can also work on releasing unresolved longings, sadness and anger toward your father.
The session will also aim to help you focus on acknowledging your own value, worth, courage and lovability.
In short: this session will aim to help you in becoming “your own best dad” - to feel proud of yourself, and be more loving and nurturing to yourself..
If you feel ready to take this step in healing the Father wound,
you can click here to take request a distant healing session!
Group sessions-the power of numbers
With group distant sessions, we tap into the power of a group - to make the healing experience even more profound!